When It's Time to Face Facts
Your Life Need Fixing?
No matter how "out-of-whack" your life
seems to be, it can be fixed so that it is functional again. I
firmly believe that. Just as a broken-down car can be made
road-worthy again, so your life can be made to work again.
Cottage Industry Save the American Economy?
The American economy and
society as a whole just may be saved by a large-scale
and wholehearted return to cottage industry. The very
conditions that are killing off giant corporations and
large-scale manufacturing may be opening the door to
profitable home-based careers and family-run businesses
— to an extent not seen in this country for nearly a
As with any other kind of repairs, there
are some simple rules:
1. Take full responsibility. Don't waste time blaming other people
for the mess your life is in. Decide right now: Are you only the
victim of other people, and of some strange power they have over
your life? Or do you have the ability to make your own choices and
2. In taking responsibility, don't waste time blaming yourself and
listing all the wrong choices you've ever made. Every living
creature makes mistakes and wrong choices. Sometimes we simply act
out of ignorance, not understanding the full impact our actions will
have on others — and on our own future. Sometimes we do know right
from wrong, and choose to do the wrong thing anyway. Welcome to the
human race. To make wrong choices along the way is human.
3. Understand the power of ideas, words, choices, and actions. What
you think about people, about yourself, and about life makes a big
difference. People often succeed in life not according to how much
money or power they have, but because of how they see themselves and
the world. Many "rich" people "assume" that they will succeed, and
so they often do. And whenever they fail, they become determined
(they get mad) and try again, because they refuse to accept ultimate
failure as an option. Many "poor" people give up right away when
they experience small failures along the way, because they assume
they're going to fail anyway. On the other hand, many, many, many
folks who were born and raised as "poor people" achieve great things
and become very, very successful. Why? Because they refused to see
themselves as ultimate failures.
4. Any repair involves creative problem-solving: the kind that every
human being is born with. What sets us apart from all the other
species of life on earth is our ability to keep working at a problem
until we finally figure it out. We're not the only intelligent
species. Many other creatures exhibit the ability to learn and even
solve problems. But we are the best at the task. Creative
problem-solving is what we're famous for. (Just ask us.) And that's
a good thing, because we often make a mess of things first, and then
we have to figure out how to correct the problems we created.
5. The goal is to solve the problem, not to simply say that we tried
(and failed). Fixing anything involves effort. When we get an idea
of how to fix this or that, we must then act on it to see if it
works. Until we take action, until we put forth the effort needed,
nothing gets fixed. Every problem waits for us to apply the
solution. If our first ideas don't work, then we need to adjust our
ideas, based on what we learned in earlier attempts, and try a new
6. Every problem has at least one truly good solution. Every failed
attempt at finding a good solution is worthwhile if we gain more
understanding of the problem. Every life can be made to work better
as long as we're still breathing and willing to make the repairs.
The fact that you may have failed, so far, in working things out
does not mean that you will continue to fail. You are closer to
finding the answer now than you have ever been.
7. If a thing (anything, at all) is worth doing, then it is worth
doing — so do it. Every goal that makes things better is worth
reaching. The very best goals are those which benefit everyone, or
at least those around you. But even if it seems that only one life
is made whole again by reaching your goal, and even if that one life
is yours, then the goal is worth every effort put into it.
Repairing a human life is the best goal of all.
8. Every day spent on reaching the goal of fixing your life is a
good day, a day well spent. Some days may show little or no
discernable progress. That doesn't matter, so long as the day was
spent doing what must be done to reach the goal. If all you do today
is dig a ditch, or haul garbage to the dump, or build a fence, or
wash dishes, or mop floors, then the day is a great day so long as
that work is helping to bring you closer to the goal of getting your
life back in shape.
9. Keep a written record or scrapbook of your progress. If you can't
write, then draw a simple picture of every step you take in reaching
your goal. Record every success. Make a journal that you can go over
when things get you down. And things will get you down, now and
then. So prepare now for the days when things seem to be going
backwards. There are days when it's hard to tell if we are doing the
right thing or not. Everyone faces days like that. But if you're
still working at making your life whole again, then you're still on
the right track.
10. Grasp the importance of joy, honest celebration, and real
gratitude. Joy and celebration do not come in a bottle, in a pouch,
or in a pill. Real joy is far superior to the artificial high
offered by alcohol, stimulants or drugs. Real celebration comes when
a person learns to recognize the good things in life. Gratitude for
good things is an important part of any meaningful life. When
repairing a car, one does not rip out all the parts that work
properly. In our lives, we must acknowledge what is good and right
in order to properly single out things that need fixing. Be
thankful. Celebrate your victories, even when they seem small. Allow
joy to overcome discouragements and delusions of failure.
Allow Others to Misunderstand
Life is complex and most of us have lives that are interwoven with
many others. Don’t be discouraged, shocked or upset when family or
friends seem to reject the efforts you put into fixing your life.
Some people may feel threatened by the improvements you're making.
If they've given up all hope, for example, in repairing their own
lives, they won't want anyone else to “show them up” or make them
feel guilty for not trying. Even successful people are sometimes
made jealous by the success of others (as though you must stay down
in order for them to stay on top).
And to be fair, people may not know they
can believe you this time, if you've promised before to do better.
Be prepared for mixed reactions.
Most people simply don’t understand when
they see someone making big changes in their lives. And some folks
just find it hard to believe anything truly “good” can ever happen
to anyone they know. This is common to human nature. It means
nothing at all, except that you may not find much encouragement from
those you know and care about.
Be patient with them. They will usually
begin to come around once they see lasting changes in your life.
Those who may seem to be against you at first often become your
biggest cheering section later on. Give it time. After all, no one
Placing Things In Perspective
Every human life is important. There are good things in this world
that only you can do, and right things that only you can accomplish.
The world needs your success. For example, other people will be
inspired when they see you turning things around in your life. But
the biggest and most important reason for positive change in your
life is you. Do it for yourself.
No matter who or what seems to stand
against you, keep going. It may truly seem at times that God Himself
is against you. But God never stops anyone from making things right
in their hearts, minds and lives. Don’t allow frustrations, small
(or even big) disappointments, economics, or anything else to keep
you from going forward. Choose each day to do the right thing, no
matter what life seems to throw at you.